Divorce Resources   Mom’s House Dad’s House: Making Shared Custody Work by Isolina Ricci (Collier Books)       A very useful book written for divorced and divorcing parents wanting to make joint custody work well. The book details the principles of two-home parenting, gives an overview of custody law, and then proceeds to tell parents in much detail how to set up a joint custody arrangement that maximizes time with both parents. The author presents practical tips for facilitating communication between the parents, maps out the course from separation to remarriage, details the mistakes to avoid and describes the emotional changes that spouses go through when they divorce. Tips are given for effectively negotiating the details of divorce, from financial to child-issues, to writing up a parenting agreement. Filled with self-surveys, checklists, and helpful hints, this book is most useful for helping high functioning, cooperative parents stay that way.
Child Custody: Building Parenting Agreements That Work by Mimi E. Lyster (Nolo Press)     This practical book offers real world solutions to parenting issues. It is appropriate for married and unmarried parents, for families with one or more children, and for non-traditional families and families with different cultural backgrounds. A valuable resource for decision-making, this book provides a number of work sheets, which may be used in developing a parenting agreement.
The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart  by Constance Ahrons (Harper Perennial)   The Good Divorce counteracts the myths that divorce inevitably turns adults into bitter enemies, results in damaged children and broken homes, and rips apart the fabric of society. The book, written for divorcing parents, focuses on what we can learn from families that divorce but maintain family bonds and do well by their children.   Joint Custody and Shared Parenting Edited by Jay Folberg (Guilford Press)             Child development experts, therapists, court-connected mediators, researchers, economists, and lawyers examine the questions and issues presented by joint custody. The book provides crucial information for parents to help them decide on parenting arrangements following marital dissolution.
Vicki Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents by Vicki Lansky (Signet Books)                              Drawing on her own experience, that of other parents, and the expertise of professionals, the author presents a step-by-step self-help guide through all the stages of separation and divorce.  The author provides age-specific advice on the kinds of reactions to expect from a child, what to do in response, and how to know when professional intervention is needed.  The book details way to prepare the children for the day one parents moves out, deals with alimony, support payments, custody, holidays, special occasions, dating, sex and the single parent, as well as the language of "divorce speak."   Healthy Divorce by Craig Everett and Sandra Volgy Everett   This book explores ways of confronting such difficult issues as how to tell your children you are getting a divorce, how to plan a separation, and how to cope with your feelings of anger, grief, and abandonment.  The authors offer practical advice on using mediation as an alternative to the adversarial court battle, co-parenting to maintain stability for the children after the divorce, and organizing and structuring a happy blended family.  Filled with checklists and examples, this book offers a detailed plan for surviving the emotional difficulties that are inevitable part of every divorce.   Between Love and Hate: A Guide to Civilized Divorce by Lois Gold   A guide written for divorcing parents to improve communication and to utilize the skills of effective negotiation and conflict resolution to avoid costly legal battles.  The book addresses legal, financial, and emotional issues during and after the divorcing process.   Question for Dad: A Very Cool Way to Communicate with Kids by Dwight Twilley (Charles E Tuttle Company, Inc.)   The author, a rock music artist, wrote this most unique book as a way to re-connect his estranged relationship with his daughter after the marital break-up and a long distance between them.    The essence of the book is "The Dad's Question for Dion Test."    This is a series of questions (in a variety of formats, including true/false, multiple choice, fill-in, draw-in) that the author would mail to his daughter, along with a self-addressed, stamped envelope, which, over the course of several years, accumulated a wealth of personal information about each other and cemented their very positive and rich relationship.  This book is very useful for long-distance fathers, full of helpful and practical suggestions and written in an informal, personal and chatty style.   Families Apart: Ten Keys to Successful Co-Parenting by Melinda Blau (Perigee Books)   Written for divorcing parents, this book is based on the author's interviews with divorced parents, family therapists, and psychologists.  The book offers practical solutions that give parents a new model of post divorce relationships.  Structured around ten principles of successful co-parenting, this book described the tasks, attitudes, and communication skills that are required to move the family through all the transitions and events that continue to bring parents together in their children's lives.  The author urges parents to put aside their own conflicts and maintain contact with the "other family" using creative